The Second Quarter

I haven't been a fan of the second quarter for a while. Since losing my dad in 2003, the second quarter has contained some challenging dates. Dad's birthday in April, the Deathiversary in May, Father's Day in June. This year, Husband and I have redefined the second quarter. April is now the month that we official moved to Maui. May is the month we found a home in Kihei. June brought employment opportunities. This second quarter was much less about absence and endings. It was about new beginnings and possibilities. Rediscovery.

It's not just our minds that are going through change right now either. We were warned by a very intelligent physician before we left the Midwest that our immune systems would be experiencing a whole lotta new in the coming months. We'd be like children going to school for the first time. Little bugs that wouldn't effect people who have been on this island for some time would hit us like a ton of bricks. I can officially say that is true. Which means sticking to healthy habits is more crucial than ever. And you know what? We're finding it to be easier than expected. It's cheaper and easier to eat smart than it is to fall into the fast food. It feels more natural to be outside than it does to be in. We move more and sit less in daily life.

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Then there is the happiness factor. It's easy to be happy here. It's challenging and still scary at times, but it's harder to be frowny with so many smiling people around. Even the tough stuff feels lighter. Granted, we're still pretty new at this. But after listening to so many others tell their Maui story, it can't be denied that happiness is not just a theme - it's a cornerstone of how life is lived here. We still have a lot to figure out. We have a lot of listening to do. A lot of learning is happening and ahead. We're sometimes overwhelmed with figuring out how we fit in. But there isn't a question about whether we fit in. There's a whole lot less contortion and a bunch more exploration. Getting out of our comfort zones and adventuring beyond our current boundaries.

I have a secret. Actually, it's not much of a secret for those who know me well, but it is a fact that some who don't might find curious. I'm afraid of open water. More specifically, open water in which the depths can't be discerned by the naked eye. I think this is because I have a seriously overactive imagination. I can work myself into quite a frenzy by shutting my eyes and letting my mind wander. A bit of a problem when I was a small child, I know relish this aspect about me. I am perfectly capable of keeping the monsters at bay and it's easy to entertain myself in hum drum situations. I love my imagination.

But it can get unwieldy in new situations. Isn't that where a lot of fear comes from? The unknown, I mean. Living landlocked for almost all of my life, I didn't have a lot of opportunities to confront this fear of open water. Fortunately, I love being near the water. From white water rafting to snorkeling in the Caribbean, I took opportunities to jump in when I could. And now, my most ultimate challenge in confronting this fear is upon me. Living on an island and working at a snorkel store.

I love it. Everything about it. I'm learning fast. Not just about product - about this incredible island. The beaches. The adventures waiting. About what brings people to this island on vacation or to live. It's an incredibly diverse place, bursting with rich history, passionate opinions, and a deep love for this rock. I'm learning how to perfectly time sunset walks to the beach. How much time to build in for chatting - and how important it is to take time to chat. Much better to apologize for being late than to abruptly end a pleasant exchange. Three decades of practice making sure to arrive no less than fifteen minutes early is a hard habit to break. Being late makes my palms sweat. But taking time to enjoy this world and the people in it is just as important, if not more so. Finding a balance of both is well worth the effort.

Breaking old habits is hard. It takes time. But in the end, it can make the future more promising. Past does not have to be prologue. Breaking out of past behavior or thought patterns can turn a historically challenging quarter into an exciting one.